Zari Hassan, umwe mu byamamare bikunzwe cyane muri Afurika y’Iburasirazuba, yongeye kuvugisha benshi nyuma y’ubutumwa yashyize ku mbuga nkoranyambaga, ubwo yagiranaga ikiganiro n’abamukurikira kuri Snapchat. Uyu mugore w’icyamamare wubashywe cyane mu bijyanye n’imideli, ubucuruzi n’imibanire, yagaragaje uko abona umubano we n’umugabo we, Shakib Cham, by’umwihariko mu gihe bari kure y’undi.
Mu butumwa butunguye benshi, Zari yavuze ko adafite na gato impungenge z’uko Shakib yamuca inyuma, n’ubwo kuri ubu bombi batabana mu gihugu kimwe. Shakib Cham abarizwa muri Uganda, mu gihe Zari Hassan asigaye akorera imirimo ye myinshi muri Afurika y’Epfo. Iyi ntera hagati yabo itigeze imubuza gutangaza ko yizeye umugabo we 100%, ariko anongeraho ko n’iyo yamuca inyuma, atari ikintu cyamushengura umutima.
“Nta mpungenge, kandi n’iyo yabikora nanjye ndabishoboye”
Mu magambo ataziguye, Zari Hassan yavuze ko adashobora gukumira Shakib niba koko yaba ashaka kumuca inyuma, kandi ko n’iyo byabaho, nta kizere yabuze. Yashimangiye ko uburenganzira bwo guhitamo no gufata icyemezo mu rukundo bureba umuntu ku giti cye, ndetse anavuga ko ibyo umugabo we yakora, nawe yabikora — ndetse akabikora neza kurushaho.
Yagize ati:
“Ibyo wakora, nge nabikora neza kurushaho. Ntabwo mbikora, ariko birashoka. Niba bishoboka ko uryama n’undi muntu, nange naryamana n’undi. Kuki wumva ko ntabikora?”
Aya magambo akomeye yavugishije benshi kuri Snapchat ndetse no ku zindi mbuga nkoranyambaga, bamwe bashimangira ko Zari agaragaza ko ari umugore wiyiziho icyizere n’agaciro, abandi bakavuga ko bigaragaza ikibazo cy’imyumvire ishingiye ku kwihimura mu rukundo.
“Kubaha urugo ni inshingano ze, si ukubera ko namubuza”
Mu gutanga ibisobanuro birambuye, Zari Hassan yakomeje avuga ko adashobora kugenzura umugabo we mu buryo bwo kumubuza guca inyuma. Ahubwo yagaragaje ko kubaha urugo ari inshingano za Shakib ku giti cye, atari ukubera igitutu cyangwa gukumirwa. Yongeyeho ko ari we uhitamo gukomeza kubaha uwo bubakanye cyangwa kutabikora, ariko iyo umuntu ahisemo kwica igihango, ntacyo yabitangaho.
Yagize ati:
“Nta kintu na kimwe nabikora kugira ngo ntamuca inyuma. Ahubwo ni inshingano ze zo kubaha urugo rwacu.”
Iyi mvugo yatumye benshi batekereza ku ruhare rw’umuntu ku giti cye mu kubaka umubano, aho benshi bemeje ko Zari arimo gutanga ubutumwa bukomeye ku buryo urukundo rutagomba gushingira ku bwoba, ahubwo rugashingira ku bwubahane n’inshingano.
Ubutumwa bwa Zari bwahise buca ibintu kuri Snapchat, Instagram, ndetse no ku zindi mbuga zitandukanye. Bamwe mu bamukurikira bagaragaje ko bishimiye ukuntu avuga ibintu adaca ku ruhande, akavuga uko yiyumva nta bwoba, bikagaragaza ko afite icyizere n’ubwisanzure bwo kuvuga ibyo atekereza.
Hari n’abandi bavuze ko amagambo ye akomeye ashobora gutera agatotsi mu rukundo rwe na Shakib Cham, by’umwihariko niba uwo mugabo atabyakira neza cyangwa niba hari abandi babikoresha nka gihamya y’uburangare mu rukundo.
Umwe mu bakoresha Instagram yanditse ati:
“Zari ni umugore wiyiziho icyubahiro n’uburenganzira. Ariko se niba ari uko abibona, urukundo rusigaye ruyoborwa na nde?”
Undi nawe ati:
“Ibi ni ukwigaragaza nk’umunyamwuga mu rukundo. Ntiwifata ngo uhore utewe ubwoba n’ibishobora kuba. Niba ukomeye mu mutwe, uzi agaciro kawe, ntushobora guhora ushishikajwe no kugenzura uwo mubana.”
Zari Hassan na Shakib Cham bamaze igihe bari mu rukundo ruvugwa cyane mu bitangazamakuru. Bagiye bagaragara mu mafoto n’amashusho atandukanye yuje urukundo, bagasangira ibihe byiza ku mbuga nkoranyambaga, aho benshi bababonaga nk’icyitegererezo cy’abakundana bakiri bato.
Gusa, nk’uko bigenda mu mubano uwo ari wo wose, ibibazo ntibyaburamo. Hari igihe byavuzwe ko bashobora kuba batari kumwe neza, bamwe banavuga ko Zari ashobora kuba yarasubiye mu rukundo n’uwahoze ari umugabo we, Diamond Platnumz, ibintu Zari yagiye ahakana kenshi.
Nubwo ibyo byose byavugwaga, Shakib yakomeje kugaragaza urukundo rwinshi kuri Zari, ndetse ahamya ko amukunda by’ukuri kandi ko ashaka kubana nawe akaramata. Ubukwe bwabo bwavuzwe mu itangazamakuru, nubwo bamwe babushidikanyagaho kubera intera n’akazi bituma badahora hamwe.
Zari Hassan si umuntu usanzwe mu ruhando rw’ibyamamare. Uretse kuba ari umukobwa w’uburanga, afite amateka akomeye mu rugendo rwe rw’ubucuruzi, uburere bw’abana be, ndetse no mu kwiyubaka nyuma y’ibikomere n’amaso y’abantu.
Yamenyekanye cyane ubwo yakundanaga na Diamond Platnumz, umuhanzi w’icyamamare muri Tanzaniya, babyaranye abana babiri. Nyuma y’itandukana ryabo, Zari yakomeje kugenda yubaka ubuzima bwe bwite, agaragaza ko umugore ashobora kwigira, akiyubaka, akanongera agakomera.
Ubutumwa bwe kuri Snapchat rero, bukubiyemo ishusho y’umugore wiyiziho, utajya yishuka cyangwa ngo ashukwe n’ibyo abona, kandi ushaka kubaka umubano ushingiye ku kwizerana, si ku bwoba cyangwa imitwe.
Ubutumwa Zari Hassan yageneye umugabo we Shakib Cham bwongeye kwerekana ukuntu ari umugore wihariye, ufite imyumvire itajyanye n’ubwoba cyangwa ubushukanyi mu rukundo. Yagaragaje ko urukundo rwabo rutarimo impungenge, ahubwo ruri mu maboko y’umwe n’umwe bitewe n’uko yifata.
Nk’uko yabivuze, kuba umuntu yaba kure y’undi ntibivuze ko aba afite uburenganzira bwo kubabaza uwo mukundana. Ahubwo, igikomeye ni ukwisuzuma, kwiyubaha, no kumenya inshingano z’umuntu mu rukundo. Buri wese afite uruhare mu kubungabunga urugo, kandi ibyemezo bifatwa ku giti cya buri umwe.
Zari akomeje kuba urugero ku bagore benshi bashaka gukunda batikandagira, kandi bagashimangira uburenganzira n’icyubahiro cyabo mu rukundo. Ubutumwa bwe bwongeye kwibutsa ko gukundana atari ugufatana ku ngufu, ahubwo ari uguhitamo — buri munsi.
