Waba wibaza impamvu abantu bahemuka cyangwa se kuki uwo mwashakanye yaguhemukira? Dore zimwe mu mpamvu nyamukuru zibitera, ndetse n’inama zagufasha gukomeza kuba inyangamugayo cyangwa kubaka umubano uhamye.
1. Gushyingirwa bihutirwa
Abantu benshi bashyingirwa batabanje gutekereza bihagije, bakabikora kubera igitutu cy’imiryango, gutwita batabiteganyije, cyangwa ngo bitwe umugabo n’umugore. Iyo ushyingiranywe n’uwo mutahuye cyangwa mutari mufitanye ubusabane, kubana na we mu budahemuka biragorana. Iyo mwembi mutiteguye kugerageza kubaka ubwo busabane, umwe ashobora kwisanga yagiye gushaka aho yumva yakirwa neza.
2. Guhonyora amarangamutima y’uwo mwashakanye
Urukundo rufite ishingiro ku bumwe n’ubusabane bwimbitse. Iyo utita ku marangamutima y’uwo mwashakanye, hari undi ushobora kuyitaho kurusha wowe. Inshuro nyinshi guhemuka bitangirira ku mubano w’amarangamutima. Mugire umuco wo kuganira, kugaragarizanya urukundo no guha umwanya umubano wanyu.
3. Imico mibi itarashizemo
Niba warigeze kugira imyitwarire yo gufata imibonano mpuzabitsina uko bibaye kose igihe wari ingaragu, bishobora gukomeza no mu rushako rwawe. Fata umwanya usubize amaso inyuma, urebe imico igushora mu makosa maze uyiveho.
4. Kwirirwa mu itsinda ry’abantu batari inyangamugayo
Inshuti mbi zigushishikariza kugwa mu byaha, ndetse rimwe na rimwe zikakugira inama mbi cyangwa zikagufasha guhisha ibibi. Shaka inshuti zigufasha kuguma mu kuri no kubaka urugo rwawe aho kurusenya.
5. Kubura ubuzima bw’imibonano mpuzabitsina bushimishije
Iyo ibyifuzo by’ubuzima bw’imibonano mpuzabitsina bititabwaho, umwe mu bashakanye ashobora kwishora hanze. Abagabo n’abagore bombi bagomba kwiga uburyo bushimisha bagenzi babo, gutegurana, kwereka urukundo no kumenya uko baryohereza bagenzi babo hatitawe ku nzitizi z’umubiri.
6. Kudahuza buri gihe
Impaka zidashira zica intege urukundo. Iyo impaka zidashira, umwe ashobora gushaka uwo yitabaza akamuba hafi, akumva amwumva kurusha uwo bashakanye, bikavamo guhemuka. Mwige uburyo bwo gukemura ibibazo vuba no gusubirana uko byari bimeze mbere.
7. Aho ukorera
Hari abantu benshi bagira umwanya munini mu kazi kurusha mu rugo. Uwo musangamo umwanya munini, mugirana ubusabane kandi aho ni ho ibyaha byinshi bitangirira. Garukira ku rugo, menyesha uwo mwashakanye abo mukorana, uze kare mu rugo, unoge neza kugira ngo ubane n’uwo mwashakanye wumva umushya.
8. Irari ry’igitsina
Irari rituma umuntu yishyira imbere, agashaka gusa kwishimisha hatitawe ku wo bashakanye. Ibi bikurura ubusambanyi no gukoresha abantu benshi mu buryo bw’imibonano. Ibisubizo si irari, ni urukundo. Icyo gukora ni ugushaka inama, ukirinda ibiganiro bishora ku irari, ukarinda ubwenge n’umutima wawe.
9. Kuba kure n’uwo mwashakanye
Gukundana mu buryo bwa kure bishobora kubyara irari ryo kugirana ubusabane n’undi uri hafi yawe. Iyo udafite ikinyabupfura, ushobora kugwa mu mutego w’undi muntu uri hafi. Muganire kenshi, mugume mu buryo bwo guhana amakuru no kugaragaza aho muri.
10. Ubufasha bw’ingirakamaro buhinduka urukundo
Hari igihe umuntu afasha undi w’igitsina gabo cyangwa gore, bikavamo kumva bakenewe hagati yabo, bigakurura amarangamutima. Ni byiza gufasha ariko ujye ubikora ubyigishije uwo mwashakanye, kandi ugenere imbibi ibyo bikorwa bitarenga.
11. Umwuga ukuganisha mu byaha
Hari imirimo imwe n’imwe ijyana n’ubusambanyi cyangwa ingendo nyinshi zishobora kugusiga uri wenyine, ukagwa mu mutego. Igihe ukora akazi ukunda, ntugatakaze urugo rwawe. Itondere uko umubano w’akazi uganisha ku marangamutima y’agaciro k’umuryango wawe.
12. Kwihorera
Hari abaca inyuma abo bashakanye kubera ko nabo babaciye inyuma. Ariko aho ni ho uba wisubije hasi. Kurwana intambara mbi si igisubizo. Ntukemure ibibazo wiyambuye indangagaciro zawe.
13. Kutiyemera
Iyo umuntu afite ipfunwe cyangwa yibona nk’udafite agaciro, ashobora kwiyambaza imibonano nk’uburyo bwo kwiyumva neza. Menya agaciro kawe, wiyubahe, kuko iyo wiyibagije, ubabaza abo mukundana.
14. Gushishikarira kureba filime z’urukozasoni
Filime z’urukozasoni zangiza ubwenge bwawe, bikagutera kwifuza ibyarenze uwo mwashakanye. Jya witoza kuganisha ubwenge bwawe ku mugore cyangwa umugabo wawe, wirinde ibikurangaza.
15. Ibibazo by’amikoro
Hari abagwa mu cyaha kubera gushaka akazi, kuzamurwa mu ntera cyangwa kubona ubufasha bw’amafaranga. Kwitanga ku mubiri ntibikuraho ikibazo, ahubwo bikigwiza. Wubahe agaciro kawe, kandi ntukagurishe umubiri ngo ubone icyo kurya.
16. Irari ryo kumenya byinshi
Kugira amatsiko ku bijyanye n’imibonano mpuzabitsina mu buryo butandukanye (nk’abantu batandukanye, imico inyuranye, n’ibindi) bishobora kugushyira mu bibazo bikomeye. Ishyingiranwa ni urw’abantu biyemeje, si urw’abantu bari mu igerageza.
17. Gushinjwa ibinyoma
Abantu bamwe bacika intege bagatangira guhemuka kuko bashinjwa ibyo batakoze. Ahubwo ganira n’uwo mwashakanye, umusobanurire, umuhe icyizere aho kugira ngo ugwe mu byo wakagombye kwirinda.
18. Inzoga
Abantu benshi babyutse bararanye n’abandi batari abo bashakanye kubera inzoga. Niba inzoga igutera kwicuza, niyo mpamvu ukwiye kuyigabanya cyangwa ukayireka burundu.
19. Kudategereza
Hari abava mu rushako vuba, bagahita bemera izindi nzuzi zibinjira, maze umubiri nawo ugahita ukururwa. Urugo rugira ibigeragezo, ariko si impamvu yo kurureka. Ihangane, uharanire gusubirana.
20. Kudasoza ibyo wasize inyuma
Umukunzi wa kera mushobora kuba mwaragiranye umubano wimbitse, ariko mutarashyize iherezo rihamye. Igihe bitagenze neza mu rugo, ushobora kwisanga usubiye iyo. Fungira urugi ejo hashize, wirinde kubuza amahoro uwo muri kumwe.
21. Inshuti z’umusitari
Inshuti z’igitsina gabo cyangwa gore zishobora kugera aho ubaha umwanya kurusha uwo mwashakanye. Menya aho ushyira imipaka, cyane cyane iyo utangiye kumva wakwitandukanya n’uwo mwashakanye.
22. Kubura icyerekezo
Niba urugo rwanyu rudafite icyerekezo rusangiye, mukabaho gusa mushaka amafaranga no gukora imirimo yo mu rugo, byoroshye ko umwe yajya ahandi agashinga icyerekezo n’undi muntu. Mushake intego zisangiwe, mwemeranye aho mugana.
Igihe winjiye mu rushako, hari byinshi bihinduka. Wige uko ubana n’undi muntu, uko uhindura imyitwarire yawe, n’uko wita ku rugo rwawe. Ntuzabyibuke igihe byamaze gusenyuka.
