Ibyo abagabo bashaka ku mukunzi cyangwa uwo bazabana bitandukana cyane bitewe n’abantu. Ariko se, kuki hari abagabo bamwe bahitamo abagore bafite umubiri muto kurusha abafite ubundi buryo bw’imibiri? Nubwo buri wese afite uburyo abona ubwiza n’ibimushimisha, hari impamvu zimwe na zimwe zituma abagore bafite umubiri muto bashobora gukundwa cyane n’abagabo bamwe. Reka dusuzume zimwe muri izo mpamvu nyamukuru.
1. Abagore bafite umubiri muto bakundwa cyane n’abantu benshi
Si ibanga ko abagore bafite umubiri muto bakunze gufatwa nk’abahiga abandi mu bijyanye n’ubwiza nk’uko bisobanurwa mu binyamakuru, amafilimi, ndetse no ku mbuga nkoranyambaga. Imibiri yabo isa nk’iteguye, amaboko magufi, inda itarimo ibinure, n’ibindi bigaragaza isuku n’uburanga, akenshi bifatwa nk’ikimenyetso cy’ubwiza n’ubuhanga.
Akenshi, aba bagore baba bafite uko bahagaze gutunganye, bituma bambara imyenda ibegereye, inkweto ndende, n’imyambaro idasanzwe batikandagira. Bityo, abagabo benshi babafata nk’icyitegererezo cy’ubwiza bujyanye n’igihe.
Ibi ntibisobanura ko abandi bagore bafite ubundi buryo bw’imibiri batari beza—ubwiza buri mu buryo bwinshi. Ariko se, mu isi igengwa n’imyitwarire y’imbuga nkoranyambaga n’amafilimi, birumvikana ko hari abagabo bagira ibyo bitaho cyane.
2. Bafatwa nk’abanyamaboko n’abanyabuhanga mu ngendo
Nubwo buri mubiri ugomba kubahwa kandi ugakundwa, hari ukwiyumvisha ko abagore bafite umubiri muto baba bafite ubuhanga mu kugenda cyangwa gukora ibikorwa bitandukanye. Mu rukundo aho gukora imibonano mpuzabitsina bifite agaciro, hari abagabo bumva ko gufata cyangwa kwimura umugore muto biborohera.
Ibi biterwa ahanini n’uko mu bitabo cyangwa amafilimi, abagore bafite umubiri muto bakunze kugaragara nk’abanyabugenge, banyamujyo, kandi basukuye. Ku bagabo bakunda ingendo, siporo, kubyina cyangwa ibindi bikorwa bifata ingufu, kubona uwo bahuje ibi bintu ni inzozi.
Nubwo atari buri gihe ko umugore muto aba afite ingufu nyinshi, iyo umugabo yifuza ubuzima bufite ibikorwa byinshi, ashobora gutekereza ko umugore muto ari we wamubera umufatanyabikorwa mwiza.
3. Bafitwaho igitekerezo cy’uko baba bafite ubuzima buzira umuze
Kuva kera, hari uko abantu bumva ko kuba umubiri uri muto bishobora kugaragaza ubuzima bwiza. Abagore bafite umubiri muto bashobora gufatwa nk’abakora siporo kenshi kandi barya neza. Imibiri yabo isa neza kandi itarimo ibinure bibaranga nk’abafite isuku mu mirire no mu mibereho.
Nubwo ubunini bw’umubiri budahora bugaragaza uko umuntu amerewe mu by’ubuzima, hari abagore bunanutse baba batarya neza cyangwa badakora imyitozo. N’ukuri, hari n’abagore bafite umubiri munini bafite ubuzima bwiza cyane. Ariko kubera imyumvire ishingiye ku mico n’amateka, hari abagabo bashobora gutekereza ko abagore bato bafite ubuzima bwiza.
Ku bagabo baha agaciro ubuzima n’imyitozo ngororamubiri, kubona umugore ugaragara nk’ufite ubuzima bwiza bishobora kuba intandaro yo kumuhitamo.
4. Hari ababona ko bashobora kubyarana neza
Nubwo ibi bitashingirwaho nk’ukuri kwa gihanga, hari abagabo batekereza ko abagore bafite umubiri muto bashobora kubyarana neza. Benshi babishingira ku gitekerezo cy’uko bagira ibyago bike byo kugira ibibazo mu gihe batwite kuko batarengeje ibiro byinshi.
Hari n’imyumvire ivuga ko abagore bunanutse baba bafite imibiri “iteguye” kwakira impinduka za kirazira zitandukanye mu gihe cyo gusama no kubyara. Ibi bishingirwa ku myumvire y’uko kugira ibinure byinshi bishobora gutera indwara ziterwa n’inda nko kugira isukari nyinshi mu maraso cyangwa umuvuduko w’amaraso.
Ibi si itegeko. Buri mugore afite umubiri we, kandi kubyara bisaba ibirenze gusa uko umuntu agaragara. Ariko ku bagabo bashyira imbere ingo n’abana, bashobora kugira ubushake bwo guhitamo umugore batekereza ko ashobora kubyarana neza, ndetse bikaba bimwe mu bituma bamwe bahitamo abagore bunanutse.
5. Baba batekerezwa nk’abagira ibyago bike byo kurwara
Abagabo bafite inyota yo kubaho igihe kirekire kandi neza bashobora kumva bashishikajwe n’abagore bafite umubiri muto kuko baba babona nk’aho bafite ibyago bike byo kurwara indwara zifitanye isano n’ibinure.
Nk’uko ubushakashatsi butandukanye bubyerekana, kugira ibiro byinshi bishobora gutuma umuntu agira ibyago byinshi byo kurwara umutima, diyabete, cyangwa izindi ndwara z’ibinure. Nubwo abagore bunanutse nabo bashobora kurwara, hari igitekerezo cy’uko kugira umubiri muto bishobora gufasha mu gukomeza umutima ukora neza n’isukari ihamye mu maraso.
Ku bagabo bifuza umubano urambye ushingiye ku buzima bwiza n’imyitozo, kubona umugore ugaragara nk’umunyamugisha mu buzima bishobora kuba impamvu ituma bamuhitamo.
Icyitonderwa cya nyuma
Nubwo ibyifuzo n’imyumvire ku bijyanye n’ubwiza bitandukanye ku bantu, hari impamvu zitandukanye zituma bamwe mu bagabo bakunda abagore bunanutse. Bimwe mu byo bareba harimo isura y’ubwiza, uburyo bagaragara nk’abanyamaboko, cyangwa uko bashobora kugira ubuzima bwiza.
Icyakora, ni ingenzi kwibuka ko ubwiza bufite amasura menshi, kandi kugirana umubano mwiza bisaba byinshi birenze gusa uko umuntu agaragara. Ubusabane nyakuri bushingiye ku rukundo, kubahana, no gusangira ibyiyumvo kurusha ishusho y’inyuma.
