1. Kubera ko guharara biba bishize.
Mu gihe cy’ugutangira gukundana, abagabo bakora ibishoboka byose ngo berekane ko bakunda. Baraguha impano, bagutembereza, bakagusoma inshuro nyinshi—nibwo bita “guhiga”.
Nyuma yo gushyingirwa, ibintu bihinduka. Umugabo araruhuka, akumva ko yamaze kukwegukana. Urukundo rugaragarira mu gusomana rugenda rusaza uko imyaka ihita.
Inama: Ibuka ko urukundo rutagomba kujya mu bihumbi, nubwo mwamaze kubana. Komeza umutere urukundo nk’uko wabikoraga mbere yo kumurushinga.
2. Kubura uburyohe mu bikorwa by’urukundo
Hari abagabo batabona uburyohe mu kugira ubusabane bwimbitse. Hari n’abumva batashobora kugaragaza amarangamutima yabo.
Niba gusomana ari imwe mu ndimi z’urukundo ukunda, ariko umugabo wawe atakibikora, ushobora kumva utitayeho kandi mushobora gutangira gutandukana mu byiyumvo.
Inama: Ganira n’umugabo wawe ku byiyumvo byawe. Bimufasha kumva ko gusomana atari igikorwa gusa, ahubwo ari ikimenyetso cy’urukundo.
3. Kubura umwanya w’umuntu ku giti cye
Nubwo mukundana, buri wese akeneye umwanya we bwite.
Niba umugabo yumva asigaye ahatirwa buri gihe, ashobora kugenda yiyomora ku rukundo rugaragarira mu gusomana.
Inama: Muhe agaciro nk’umuntu ku giti cye, kandi wumve ko guha umuntu umwanya bishobora gutuma arushaho kugukunda.
4. Kurambirwa imibonano mpuzabitsina
Iyo imibanire yo mu buriri itangiye kuba inshuro ku yindi, irambirana. Iyo gusomana n’imibonano biba ibintu bisanzwe, nta gishya, urukundo rugenda rusaza.
Inama: Gerageza ibishya. Fata gahunda nshya, muganire ku byifuzo byanyu, mushake uburyo mushya bwo kongera kwishimana.
5. Kubura itumanaho rihamye
Itumanaho ni ishingiro ry’urugo. Iyo ibibazo bitavugwa, bigenda byubaka urukuta hagati y’abashakanye.
Niba umugabo wawe afite ibyo bimuremereye ariko ntabikubwira, bishobora gutuma atakibasha no kukwegereza mu buryo bw’urukundo.
Inama: Muganire, mubwirane ukuri, muterane inkunga. Ibyo bizasubiza gusomana uburyohe n’icyo byari bisobanuye.
6. Ibibazo by’Ukwiyizera
Abagabo nabo barahungabana ku isura yabo. Niba umugabo yahuye n’ikibazo cy’umubyibuho, gucika imisatsi, cyangwa ibibazo by’akazi, bishobora gutuma atakiyizera.
Iyo atakiyumva ko afite agaciro, bishobora gutuma adashaka kukwegereza cyangwa kugusoma.
Inama: Muhe ibyishimo n’umutima wo kwiyizera. Umwereke ko wumva agaciro ke n’iyo ibintu byahindutse.
7. Kumenyerana Bikabije
Bavuga ko “kumenyerana cyane bitera kwirengagiza”. Iyo mamaranye igihe kirekire, hari ibintu mwajyaga mukundana bikagenda bisibangana.
Iyo mwese mutagikora ibikorwa by’urukundo mubigiranye ubushake, nko gusomana, bigenda bicika.
Inama: Ibuka impamvu wamutoranyije. Tangira kongera kumutera urukundo n’amarangamutima nk’aho ari bwo mwibona bwa mbere.
8. Umuvundo w’Imihangayiko y’Ubuzima bwa Buri Munsi
Imihangayiko y’akazi, amafaranga, n’inshingano z’urugo bishobora kurya urukundo. Iyo umugabo ameze nk’uwacitse intege mu bitekerezo n’amarangamutima, ntaba agifite ubushake bwo gusomana cyangwa kwiyegereza umugore we.
Akenshi biba atari uko abishaka—ahubwo abibona nyuma yo kubibutswa.
Inama: Mufashe kuruhuka no kugabanya umunaniro. Tangira uminsi yawe cyangwa uy’umugabo wawe n’urukundo, nko kumusoma mbere y’uko yajya ku kazi. Iyo umutima uciye bugufi, urukundo ruragaruka.
Icyitonderwa: Nubwo impamvu zose zavuzwe zishobora gutuma umugabo areka gusoma umugore, ibisubizo biboneka mu kuganira, kwita ku marangamutima, no kongera gushimangira ko urukundo rwanyu rugifite agaciro.
